Relationships are Not a Race appeared first on Relationships Reality and was authored by Sarah Adelle and Sophia Elise
Relationships are not a race. The pace of relationships these days seems as though most people don’t want to take the time necessary to find the right relationship. They meet, and then almost immediately start wondering where it is going and how long it will take to get there. Slow down. Take the time to date and get to know someone. Find out everything you can about them before getting into a relationship so there are less surprises.
Go places with them, spend time with them, so you can see what common ground you share and if you can have a good time with them. Have many dates with them, over a longer period of time before getting into a relationship. It is much better to do that than to spend all your time with a person for a period of a few weeks and getting into an instant relationship.
At first people put a lot of time into getting to know someone new, but then they get back to their other responsibilities like their career, family, friends and outside interests. So many people wonder why someone came on so strong at first and then things cooled off. The reason is they only made the time at the beginning to win you over, they never had the intention of keeping it at that high a level.
If you see someone say once or twice a week for a period of a few months you have a better idea going forward that they have at least that much time to see you. If they can rarely see you while you are dating, you have a pretty good clue that being in a relationship with them will be pretty lonely because they won’t have time for you.
The label “relationship” may come with some perks, such as exclusivity, but it doesn’t come with all of the perks you may want. It makes sense to think that when you are dating someone a few days could go by without hearing from them, but when you are in a relationship, that shouldn’t really happen too often. Dating someone for a longer period of time before getting into a relationship helps you see what their relationship skills and expectations are. This way you know what you are getting into before you get into it.
The end game with everyone you date isn’t getting into a relationship with them. Sometimes you avoid getting further involved with someone who doesn’t want the same things you do. Dating someone for a longer period of time may seem to some people like a waste of time, but it isn’t. Rushing into a relationship with someone too quickly and then staying in a relationship with them until you find that out is a bigger waste of time. Who has that kind of time to waste?
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